Don't you love that question and secretly hate it at the same time? It comes from Susan Scott in her book Fierce Conversations where she suggests that the first thing we need to do in any situation is to 'interrogate reality'. The question she uses to do this is "What are you pretending not to know?"
Whenever we feel overwhelmed, underappreciated, or that we are unable to slow down and take care of ourselves, this question comes in handy. It's a tough question when we want to feel like a victim of our circumstances but it is an honest question. Because there are times when we can take time for ourselves, even if there are some disappointed people in our lives as a result. We don't have to be a slave to our schedule, our kids schedule or anyone else's unless we ignore the reality of our ability to choose, the reality that others are capable of stepping up, and the reality that our bodies and relationships cannot take unlimited pushing without breaking down.
So what is it that you are pretending not to know? Where are you accepting a 'myth' as reality rather than as an unrealistic expectation? What each of us thinks is true is really only a reflection of our world view or view of reality. And is that the whole truth, the whole picture? What is it we are not seeing or pretending not to see in our picture of reality?
How would tackling your toughest assumptions with a reality check change your life?
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